GoodbyeGal
I’ve always been much of a homebody and while I love to go out, socialize, and travel if given the choice I would stay home. Alone. At times my friends have reprimanded me for my hermit tendencies, but I can’t help be who I am and that girl likes her alone time and space.
Before Ex moved out I often felt crowded by his presence even if he were in a whole other part of the house. I spent a lot of time in my room, which was my only escape where I could close a door and be alone. It made me a little claustrophobic, but I just reminded myself that some day soon I would get the space and solidarity I was so desiring of.
That day finally came and now it’s just me (and my 2 cats). I don’t have to worry about anyone but me. I can clean and five minutes later it’s still clean! There is no one here to pick up after, no one expecting company from me, no one breathing down my neck.
I may have been too careless when I invited Beefcake into my home last Tues night to watch a movie. While the time we spent together was enjoyable I think he may have gotten the impression that there was room for him in my life. He started the following day with the “let’s do this & that” which is to be expected when a guy is into you.
Beefy works nights and when we spoke Thursday I joked to him that he should come by when he got off of work in the morning and cook me breakfast. Sure enough 6:30 the next morning guess who is at my door! He cooked and even cleaned up after himself, which was nice.
I invited him to come back later that evening to hang out as it was his night off and I was expecting a friend over. Thought it would be good to get a second opinion about the guy. He showed up late with out calling to let me know he was behind schedule. I had assumed he was not coming and left him a voice mail stating it, but as my friend and I were heading out to get a bite to eat guess who pulls up?
We all head off to dinner then back to my place. At this point it was late and despite talk of watching a movie I decided to go to bed. Beefy stayed over but I assure you there was no funny business. It had become apparent to me at this point that he was a heavy smoker, which is a major turn off for me. I get a headache if the car in front of me on the highway is smoking so I was not too impressed with him at this point.
He spent all of Saturday with me helping me clean around the house and tried to fix my Central Air unit, which resulted in him getting attacked by hornets! Apparently there was a nest in the A/C unit and they were not to pleased with him messing with their home. Then there was the hole in my yard he stepped in and twisted his ankle. I’d never noticed that hole before, but you would think being in a strange place you would be more careful, no? I hate to laugh, but I find it highly amusing.
All through the day he would sneak away for cigarettes. When we first started talking he told me he smokes cigars. I don’t mind that and cigars are usually smoken at leisure, not on a regular like cigarettes. It started to bother me around mid-morning when the headache came and I knew this wasn’t going to work out. Then there were these wheezing sounds that would come out of no where. Already annoyed by the smell of him this was just too much for me to handle and I was starting to feel like he might never leave.
I waited till dinner was done and we had finished watching a movie he brought over (which he spent the whole time talking though and distracting me … strike three perhaps?). Then I told him I felt like I needed to go to bed. He assumed this meant with him and that’s when I told him he had to go.
I thanked him for everything as I helped him gather up his things….making sure there was nothing left behind that would give him an excuse to return… and showed him to the door.
A little over a week on my own and now I can add this very important lesson about living single to my list. This is the last time I invite a guy into my home before knowing for sure that I don’t mind him hanging about. Oh and I will be adding the NO Smokers to my dating profile, which I now know is a must!
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